Monday, November 1, 2010

Mad? Hold On to an Angry Letter…



Hold on to an angry letter, you might change your mind in the morning.  Anger is known to be the most seductive emotion of all; people might refer to it as an uncontrollable urge, where you can only sometimes use your fest or start cursing. It’s when you can feel the adrenaline running in all your veins, you’re sweating and your hands are shaken ready to condemn any form of a vigorous action. Only those who realize they are angry and know that’s just a temporary emotional phase are the ones who can pull back; the ones who wouldn’t write down their future regrets.
 
Of course you have the right to be angry; after all, we are only humans. I for one have been angry many times. I got to say, it's not the best feeling in the world!

Benjamin Franklin once said, “Anger is never without a reason, but seldom a good one.” Whether you have been rudely treated, insulted, demeaned or frustrated your anger aroused from the threat; the threat that your goal, possession, self-esteem or status will be taken away. After which thoughts of revenge, unforgiveness and imposing pain have taken over you. It’s when the poison in you and the beast wakens up. Don’t suppress it, but don’t act on it.

What can be done then?
Well, it's by trying to cool off!

There are many ways that will help you cool down, among them are:
-                   Counting to ten. Yeah, it works if you try it.
-                   Taking a walk
-                   Going for a drive
-                   Writing it down
-                   Exercising
-                   Relaxation methods such as deep breathing and muscle relaxation.
-                   Distractions such as TV, movies, reading, etc.

What wouldn’t calm you down?
-                   Shopping
-                   Eating

Ice-cream and chocolates wouldn't do it; they will just make you self-pity yourself even more. As a matter of fact, they will make you feel worse. I am not a journal keeper, but when I get really angry sometimes I write a letter to whatever or whoever is bothering me. I always hold on to it. I wait a few days and read it, and all I think is God NO. What the hell was I thinking? It’s when the rational thinking takes place. I tear it apart afterwards.
 
I know that really sounds like too simple. You will probably be thinking, “Like I am going to take a walk or write it down and that will do it for me! Yeah, right!”  Many of us either express it harshly or suppress it inside. Both ways just make so much damage; it’s either you ruin a relationship with someone or just wreck yourself apart.
 
I am not saying that the anger is always a negative feeling. Sometimes it’s necessary to get something done. It’s like if you are fighting with bullies, you feel angry. The anger in you gives you the motivation and energy to fight back and defend yourself.  The trick here is as Aristotle said, “Anyone can become angry—that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way—that is not easy.”

By: Sherwette Mansour

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